Dear Quiet

I really miss reading everyone’s blogs, but I’ve been avoiding my phone.

While my family had the flu, my mother was continually texting me that my stepfather (86) was going down in health, at the hospital, that he wasn’t going to make it.

Then a day or two later she’d text, “He’s back at home and doing much better.”

It was an emotional roller coaster that I was forced to ride. Especially since my stepfather has been abusive to me all my life and we do not have a relationship right now.

My family has brushed the abuse under the rug constantly.

But while speaking to my pastors at church about it, I saw the look on their faces: horrified. It’s the first time I realized just how serious the abuse had been.

My sister is insinuating that I don’t care. We’re also estranged. She stopped speaking to me in my teens for a decade because of some boyfriend she had. Then found me briefly at age 28. Then stopped speaking to me again until 38 (another decade). Then stopped speaking to me back in December until now, to send me a text that sounded scolding.

And I’m tired of it all.

Which is why I haven’t been blogging or reading your blogs.

From my mother’s latest text, my stepfather has had a stroke and is in intensive care, but will not recover.

I’m not sure what will happen or when, but I’ve silenced my phone because I cannot take it. It’s spring break and I have my preschooler with me 24/7. All the parents out there know how that is. I can’t ride that emotional roller coaster any longer.

How This Changes My Blog

I plan to remain offline until spring break is over, then do another life update.

After that, I’ll continue blogging normally. And I’ll continue with my plan to write articles every now and then.

The articles will be related to overcoming the abuse I went through, from my point of view. Not as a health professional, but rather as someone sharing her story and what’s been working in my life.

I miss reading everyone’s blogs and I look forward to catching up with everyone soon.

Take care,
Dear Quiet

signal.log: 3.18.2026
see-you-soon
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