Dear Quiet

warning… ⚠️
complexities _ahead

My stepfather, who is 86 years old, is now at home with the same issues. Issues that his doctors say he will not recover from.

He has a collapsed lung, several heart problems, and trouble breathing. I asked a friend of mine, who is a nurse, why they would send him home if he isn’t going to get better. She replied, for comfort.

On his last days (which could be months or hours), I have been thinking of how I could share the Gospel with him.

But I can’t just call and talk. I’ve never been able to do that. There’s a history of abuse there that led me to escape at age sixteen and never really go back home. (I tried in my 20’s. It did not go well.)

So, how do you share the Gospel with someone you know won’t be happy to hear from you? How do you make sure someone with his type of history is actually saved?

The answer is: not simple.

I don’t want to call and upset him, because his health might take a downturn because of me. But I know that if I don’t say anything, it will be a regret that I’ll carry with me for the rest of my life. Because no matter what he’s done, I want him to be saved.

I’ve spoken to my husband, my friends, and even my pastors about the issue.

With the advice of my pastors, I’ve decided to text my mother instead. Just a message of hope, encouragement, and peace. Which is the normal way I’ve communicated with them for years now ~ via text.

I should know by her reply if they’re leaning on Jesus during this time or not. Then go from there.

My issue isn’t that I’m scared to share the Gospel, but that I’m afraid to upset my stepfather by calling out of the blue and making his condition worse.

And my issue has also been that I feel like I’m running out of time to say something.

Well, I hope the text will be a good opening to share Jesus.

I just can’t be silent during this time.

Take care,
Dear Quiet

signal/log: 1.31.2026
notes: crying ≠ crashing
status: stable