Today, I get some time to myself, and it’s in these moments that I wonder: Who am I when I’m not a mom?
The role of a mother has been all-consuming for me, and that has been totally by choice. This wonderful experience has been the most amazing I’ve had in my entire life!
The love is unlike any other, the laughter is unlike any other, and even the frustrations are unlike any other I’ve ever known.
But, yes, I’m still my own person, albeit a completely new person now, and I need to take care of my mind ~ via learning, hobbies, and interests outside of mothering.
In my experience, motherhood has been a process of reframing my life. At first, in those hard newborn months, it was ALL that I did.
Then, slowly, as my child grew, I began to have more time and energy to dedicate to other things (“other things” meaning activities that didn’t involve wiping, feeding, cleaning, pumping, burping, and endless cuddling).
I would say that things got better at 7 months. By 18 months, I felt like I had much more freedom. Now (years later), I can dive into various hobbies and interests, and I don’t always have to wait for someone to watch my child while I do so.
(So, if you’re in the thick of things, know that it will get better with just a little time!)
Today, with my chunk of free time, I plan to dive into the hobbies that I love most. I’m going to write, of course. I’m going to enjoy some coffee. I’m going to read my Bible, and pray, and center myself. I’m going to enjoy the silence.
I hope that you have a good day, too.
Take care,
Dear Quiet
Dear Quiet 
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